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When We Choose Love

Years ago I began to study as much as I possibly could on various religions, cults and belief systems. Not because I wanted to join one, but because I have an undying fascination on what makes people believe what they do. Why people are so willing to sacrifice for those beliefs. It lead me down a rabbit hole jumping from one question to the next of, “But why?” I wanted to understand HOW so many people could believe so differently and yet be so emphatic that their beliefs are the right one. What I came across time after time was that many of them seem to teach the same basic principles of LOVE as their foundation.

At the same time I was researching all of these belief systems, I also started to study metaphysical spirituality. THAT was the most intriguing to me as it resonated somehow on a much deeper level than anything else had. I began to understand how ALL life is made up of vibrational energy. Positive and negative. The Universe itself being of positive frequency and us humans (thanks to our duality of spirit and flesh) able to flow at both positive and negative, but never both at the same time. When I began to correlate the religions I was learning about to metaphysical spirituality, I began to see similarities that made them almost one in the same. With a bunch of minutia in-between that clouded those similarities and made them almost oppositional.  

If you think of the two frequencies as Doppler lines — The positive vibration moves at a steady elongated frequency with little disturbance or huge shifts. The negative moves erratically, up and down, with peaks and dips, choppy, disturbed and never in a steady sequence. The Universe pulsates at a positive steady vibration, the same vibrational frequency that scientific studies have shown is the frequency of love. When we think of love, most times we view it as a feeling. The first time you see your child, the way you feel inside when you look into the eyes of your soulmate. But LOVE is a verb. It is a physical action that requires a conscious effort to prove its meaning. Some of the fruits of love being gratitude, humility, honesty, compassion, selflessness, empathy, respect, regard, patience, kindness, hope, perseverance, consistency, loyalty, etc. All actions that vibrate at the same positive frequency as LOVE.

Most of us think that hate is the opposite of love, but in truth hate is a fruit of FEAR. FEAR actually being the opposite of love. Fear vibrating at the lower, negative frequency. And when you think about the physiological response your body has when in a state of fear, how your heart races, how your breathing becomes erratic and unsteady — And compare that to the physiological responses your body has in the state of love — you can almost imagine those Doppler lines vividly. The fruits of Fear are the opposite of love. Hate, anger, resentment, dishonesty, pride, selfishness, hostility, malevolence, doubt, carelessness, ingratitude, spite, etc.

In the Christian Bible, John 15:12-13 Jesus’ words to the people were, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

In the Buddhist Scriptures of Karaniya Metta Sutta it says: “Just as a mother would protect her only child with her life, even so let one cultivate a boundless love towards all beings.” And in the same scriptures it says, “Radiate boundless love towards the entire world — above, below, and across — unhindered, without ill will, without enmity.”

Why is it that so many enlightened ones have spoken so much about love? Could it be that as enlightened ones they already knew that we were created in the consciousness of love? Could it be that they understood this universal element that connects us all? There is another common denominator in countless belief systems, one more key to this that we haven’t quite grasped as a people yet and that is — Love with the spirit of GRATITUDE.

In the Christian scriptures, Apostle Paul’s words of 1 Thessolonians 1:18 – “But in ALL things give thanks…” And in James 1:2 – “Consider it pure joy, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

And in the Buddhist texts, Anguttara Nikaya (AN 2:118) says: “These two people are hard to find in the world. Which two? The one who is first to do a kindness, and the one who is grateful and thankful for a kindness done.”

In the Buddhist scriptures gratitude is taught as a reaction. That whole adage of “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade” – thing. When Japanese Buddhist priest Nichiren, founder of Nichiren Buddhism was imprisoned by the Hei no Saemon-no-jo, a government official, Nichiren later wrote that he felt the deepest gratitude toward the official who slandered, imprisoned, and attempted to assassinate him. He accredited the government official’s persecution with testing Nichiren convictions, forcing him to dig deep for the truth, and strengthening both his certainty and his resolve to teach.

And in the Christian Bible in the case of Job, the same is also true.

God was proud of Job, he believed that Job could sustain anything and would remain loyal and grateful to God as he always had been, no matter what came his way. Satan disagreeing with God’s assumptions of Job asked God to be allowed to have a go at Job. To prove that he wasn’t as dedicated and loyal to God as God believed that he was. God agreed and removed his hand from Job’s life to allow Satan to have his way. Job at first praised God through the trials suddenly upon him, until they got much harder and more relentless in nature. Then he began to cry out at how God had forsaken someone so blameless as him. God eventually puts life into perspective for Job. Job then realizing it was a test of his faith and how misguided he had been to complain and forget the purpose, woke up to the fact that God had not completely forsaken him, and saw the error of his ways. He became grateful for the bad that he had just lived through, with gratitude for it all. At that moment of Job’s gratitude and clarity, God returned his hand to Job’s life and blessed him even more.

How many of us can identify with either of these stories? We wait and pay our dues in life, good things start to happen and we feel like life is finally lining up with our ideals. Then out of nowhere an atom bomb hits, that turns our worlds upside down. We can only see smoke. We can’t see what we still have, we can’t feel gratitude for any of it. All that we can do is wallow, and blame something higher than ourselves for failing us. We’ve all been there. But it is when we take on the spirit of gratitude, carried out through the action of Love, that the smoke and clouds are effortlessly lifted.

When we think, speak and act in the spirit of love and gratitude for ALL things, we acknowledge that even the unsavory circumstances are meant for our ultimate good. We shift our consciousness into that which all of creation was formed in.

In the Christian scriptures, Mark 11:23, says: “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.”

In Phillipians 4:6: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests…”

The Buddhist scripture of Dhammapada, verse 39 says: “There is no fear for one whose mind is not filled with desires.”

Prayer = Meditating on it. Petition = Asking for it. WITH THANKSGIVING = With Gratitude. Meditate on it, ask for it and without anxiety be grateful for it being so.

In a world where it is easy to focus on “I want,” rather than “I have” we often find ourselves in a state of helplessness. And we look for people and things to blame our misfortune on. With that act of wanting comes anxiety which is a fruit of FEAR, lowering us to the negative vibrational energy and out of line with that of the Universe and of Love. But when we turn our focus onto “I have,” we shift from that negative vibration of want — desiring something to happen and the anxiety of what if it does not happen — to the positive vibration of love through the simple act of gratitude.

When I say, “I am grateful for the roof over my head, for my children, spouse, water, food, etc.,” I can say it truthfully, with gratitude and without any fear and anxiety behind it because I already have these things. What we forget to acknowledge though, is that NONE of these things are automatic promises to us. There is no contract we signed with life stating that we were assured to live out our lives fully, to have a family, a roof over our heads, food in our bellies, a job, etc. Each one is a miraculous gift. If we learn to use that same gratitude and love for what we do have, by stating our thankfulness for what we don’t yet have as if it is already so – we are calling those things to us. By being in line with the same positive vibration that the Universe and all creation was formed in, it becomes reality set in motion. When we show gratitude for what we have been given, experienced, etc. – We are operating in love and in line with the same positive vibrational energy that the entire Universe pulsates at. In essence, we are then completely connected to all life.

With all that has happened and is continuing to happen – the hateful rhetoric and negative narratives that are being shoved down our throats around the clock from every aspect, it leads me to wonder — Where is it that we lost sight of love? When was it that we decided that hating each other, blaming others for our misfortunes and tearing each other down, is a necessary thing to do? We see it more frequently than not these days all across media, politics, and typical daily life. Love has failed to be the center and gratitude is nowhere in the picture. And it didn’t fail because love failed, it failed because we as people have failed to promote it and perpetuate it. To show it, speak it, think it and apply it to everything that we say and do. We not only forgot that we came from love, but we abandoned its purpose. And yet love never moved. It never changed or hid itself away from us. It stays constant. We moved away from it. We decided at some point that ego was more valuable. That getting our point across, even if it was through malicious means was more important. We decided that hurting someone else, was a reasonable price to pay in order to feel validated in our beliefs.  

Every day that I leave my home to go run some errand or another, I see people with sad looks on their faces. I smile at every person that I pass and I frequently say hello, but most do not return that. They probably think I’m a nut job for smiling at them and especially for talking to a random stranger, but my thought is – maybe that simple smile and hello is just what is needed to remind them of love. To bring back into remembrance that which we all come from and are connected by. Maybe it is the one kind and positive thing that happened to them in days, and will bring them back to the consciousness of love.

Fear and hate is NOT where we came from as a people. It is against our very nature as human beings created in the image and likeness of love – to go out and incite and instill fear, hate and violence. Here we are, all looking for the good to happen in our lives. We want to be happy, we want to be successful, we want to be loved and yet we are destroying each other AND ourselves with our words, thoughts and actions. We are effectively removing ourselves from all that we want so badly to have and thinking that life just isn’t fair, to us. That someone or something is deciding our fate and toying with our resilience. We decide our realities with every thought that we allow and entertain, every word that we speak and every deed that we carry out. If we want better, then we have to do better. We have to shift our minds and our hearts to the positivity of love, instead of the negativity of fear and hate. We have to keep our thoughts and especially what we say to ourselves and to each other in check, at all times. We have to choose kindness, compassion, empathy, selflessness. We have to choose love. Until we make that choice, our lives will always feel chaotic. Our thoughts will always be driven by negative rhetoric and our actions will always reflect the clear disconnect between ourselves and all of the qualities of love. We can’t control others. There will always be people who will spin negativity our way, but we have the choice to be grateful for our lives, our freedoms, and every single thing that we have, and dispel all forms of negativity from our minds and hearts and choose to walk instead in the consciousness of LOVE. That choice is ours. Our present and future reality is and will forever be at the mercy of that choice.

My heart is hurting and heavily burdened for the state that we all as human beings are allowing ourselves to wade in. Because we have allowed it. The responsibility falls on our shoulders and nothing else. Every minute aspect of the current state we are living in, we have allowed by continuing the same negative, hateful, fear driven thoughts, narrative and actions that have brought about so much destruction — Both in the far past and in recent history. When will we finally stop making excuses for all of our bad behavior and start choosing love? When will we stop blaming each other for the choices that we ourselves, make? The day that we finally realize that we have unlimited power over not only our own lives but over the world in which we live in just by controlling and curtailing our thoughts, is the day that the Universe will align in all of our favor. It is the day we will finally see positive change, because WE CHOSE that change by choosing love. The love that pulsates at the same frequency of energy as the Universe itself. The same love that we were created in and that never left us. It’s a choice that we all must make individually, every day that we are alive and breathing. And some days it may be hard to, but those are the days that build our character and perseverance. We’ve hated long enough. We’ve gone on the defense, accused, attacked and bloodied our opponents and it’s gotten us nowhere. In fact, it put us in worse standing than where we started. Why can’t we see this and when as human beings will we finally get it — that Love conquers ALL.

2 thoughts on “When We Choose Love

  1. “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God IS love.” 1 John 4:8

    Did you know that you came from a Sephardic background and that your ancestors were Jewish? He called His people to be the spiritual leaders of the world (salt – remember?) You have certainly come into your own space with this one kiddo! It’s a masterpiece and one mom would have loved!

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